Thursday, December 31, 2009

AN APPEAL TO ALL

THIS IS A FORWARD FROM OUR SISTER BLOG @http://cybervictims.blogspot.com/

WE AT CCVC HAVE STARTED 2010 WITH A CAUSE.THE POPULAR SOCIAL NETWORKING WEBSITE ORKUT.COM IS BEING USED BY MANY TO CREATE FAKE PROFILES AND COMMUNITIES WHICH ARE DEFAMING , DEMEANING AND SOME TIMES CARRIES SEXUALLY EXPLICIT CONTENTS. THIS PARTICULAR ISSUE IS NOT RESPONDED WELL BY ORKUT. AS PER THE INDIAN LEGAL STANDARD, SUCH PROFILES AND COMMUNITIES ARE ILLEGAL. BUT UNFORTUNATELY SINCE ORKUT IS GUIDED NOT BY INDIAN LAWS BUT BY UNIVERSAL POLICY GUIDELINES OF ITS OWN (WHICH IS MADE ON THE BASIS OF US FREEDOM OF SPEECH AND EXPRESSION), MANY TIMES INNOCENT VICTIMS HAVE BEEN REFUSED ANY POSITIVE HELP. HENCE WE HAVE FILED AN ONLINE PETITION. THE URL IS http://www.petitiononline.com/ccvc123/petition.html. IF U HAPPEN TO READ THIS BLOG, PLEASE SIGN THE PETITION BOTH IN THIS LINK AS WELL AS IN CCVC'S WEBSITE. WE ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR KIND RESPONSE.
THANK U
DEBARATI
JAISHANKAR

Sunday, December 27, 2009

Telephonic eve teasing: Then and now

Recently I was writing an article on Sexting. My subjects were children, but I felt very strange when I finished the whole article .I remembered we , the older generation electronic stuff users ( when compared to these Digi-kids), also faced quite the similar situations when we were young adults.Ten or fifteen years back, we didn't have such huge popularity and usage of mobile phones in India, but we did have regular prank calls in our land lines to remind us that we are WOMEN.And how did it happen? I remember, exactly fifteen years back from today , there was a regular caller to our number who loved to hear our voice. He never got discouraged by daddy's warning,complete silence from our side , or even grandma's old voice. Some how he knew this number belongs to a family who have girls. At the beginning, the caller used to make frantic experiments with his romantic dialogues to befriend me and my sister. Slowly he changed his ways. He started telling how beautiful we are ( ahem... we were pretty healthy and foody , but the caller kept on insisting that we are "beautiful"... enough to make self conscious teens fall for unknown "boy friends" isn't it?) , how sweet we look when we wear the particular shade of pink etc etc...Now, my family being headed by a police chief dad, we were told these are nothing but "disturbing calls" and we should not answer them.Well, we learnt this practical way of what is "eve teasing" and what is "stalking". But things didnt go so smoothly either. One night, after his usual dialogue, the caller suddenly started describing his physic. This was it... As usual, we hung up the receiver for the whole night , but some thing told me and my sister , lets hear today what he is upto.... He did describe himself as a very charming handsome muscleman who can "satisfy any woman"( "satisfy?" we were pretty surprised... innocence you call?).Well, we heard , didn't say anything. But next night he came up with an unusual proposal... how about experiencing some "real hot stuff" over phone? As usual, we silently heard his "ideas". Indeed the caller was a young adult himself who didn't have any such practical sexual experiences , but hey come on, he heard a girl's voice the very first day in this number and planned to "experiment"with his newly acquired "manhood".He told us how he would love to take us to honeymoon to some beach resort and do "all those stuff that married men do".Our instinct told this is not normal. We told the whole incidence to our dad and since the very next night , our "watch man" disappeared.
When we discussed these "funny episodes" with our cousin and friends, they came up with similar stories. Some experiences were very funny, some were really scary, some made the girls to plead their parents to change the phone numbers. As a grown up woman, I now understand that we too had been victims of telephonic eve teasing. Well, those "disturbances" in our times were not so alarming as it is now. We didn't have the open access to internet to immediately publicize the phone number or the residential address to which this number is allotted.But now these "night calls" remain no more "amusing" even if it is done in the land lines. You never know how your silence after a simple "hello" can make you a victim.Well, You are asking about my suggestion ? Hang on.. because I still get such prank calls and I promptly switch off the phone if I get to see the number is "unknown".But as I always say.. ACCIDENTS DO HAPPEN"